You have blocks you are not able to work through, and you are seeking couples or marriage counseling. You love your partner, husband, or wife, AND with increasing frequency and intensity conflicts come up that are destructive and that in the end leave you feeling alone, terrified and exhausted. You may feel like your partner hates you, doesn’t care about you, or has abandoned you, even if logically you know that isn’t true.
Counseling for couples can help to turn things around. I provide counseling for couples. The way I work is to assume that both people contribute to the conflicts in the relationship. I work with couples to first calm things down enough so safe dialogue can happen, then get to know the point of view of each person, work with each partner to help them to be able to listen and hear the pain in their partner, and address, unpack and heal the foundational, underlying difficulties.
Statistics say that couples who are seeking therapy or counseling have on average been sitting on a therapy worthy issue for six years! If you are looking at this page, odds are you may have some long time challenges. The time may be right to start to address what’s going on in your relationship.