Emotion Focused Couples (EFT) Couples therapy is about getting responsive to each other. We turn toward each other, we can hear each other, know each other, love each other. Having the other tune toward us allows us to be taken in, to be emotionally present, allows us to feel loved, to be loved. This allows us to be ourselves. If we can both do this for each other we will be members of united couples, empowered to face all of the challenges of life–big to small. What a wonderful life to have a companion to whom we can be emotionally responsive and who can be emotionally responsive to us.