It is said that couples who seek marriage coupling on average wait 6 years on a therapy worthy issue. The emotional pain present in relationships is felt in the brain in the same place as physical pain. Getting out of a conflict or withdrawal (or both!) pattern with your loved one can be helped by starting couples therapy with a compassionate, trained and experienced therapist. It is possible to start to turn toward each other, understand and heal the hurt, and regain emotional closeness with your partner.