Have you ever considered trying emotionally focused therapy, or EFT? If this is your first time ever hearing about this model of therapy, consider reading this blog post first. It covers the basics of EFT and how it can help. Essentially, EFT is a type of therapy that really focuses on emotions and emotional healing. It can be a great way to improve relationships with others, as well as help you learn to regulate your own emotions.
If you have been thinking about EFT, you might be wondering how to go about finding a therapist that specializes in emotionally focused therapy. Your first step would be to do some research. Find out which type of therapy you want, as there are a few variations of EFT. One good resource for figuring out which type of emotionally focused therapy is right for you is the blog post I linked previously (see here). As a brief run down, there are three main types of EFT; EFT for couples (EFCT), EFT for individuals (EFIT) and EFT for families (EFFT).
EFT is not the only method out there though. Another great option for couples therapy is the Gottman Method. This method is similar to EFT, but it uses a bit of a different approach. Gottman’s main focus is to build a sound relationship house, which consists of many different components. Similarly to EFT, one big goal of Gottman’s method is to be emotionally in tune with one another as a couple.
Another method is a Developmental Model for Couples that was created by Ellyn Bader. This model works to help each person in the couple grow individually as well as together as a couple. This model can be beneficial for couples as it acknowledges that we as people change over time. It can help the individuals sort out their own issues as well as work on the couple as a unit.
Back to searching for a therapist or deciding on which type of therapy would be right for you. One of the best ways to learn more about the therapy experience is to talk to someone who has been in therapy. While everyone has their own unique experience, hearing about a friend or family member’s experience may be helpful. A personal recommendation can be one of the best ways to find someone in your community who is a good therapist.
Another great tool when it comes to looking for a therapist in your area is the ICEEFT website. ICEEFT stands for the International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy. This is specifically helpful if you have decided to give EFT a try, as it is meant to help identify people in your community with specific EFT training. Searching by state can help narrow down the search process.
Once you start narrowing it down to one or more therapists that you think might be a good fit, consider interviewing them. This is a fantastic next step. Some therapists offer a free phone consultation. This is a great opportunity to speak to them without fully committing to a session. Many people find it helpful to speak with the therapist before a real session because then they can make sure the therapist is able to help them with the thing for which they are seeking help, and if the therapist seems like the type of person they want to see.
Overall, seeking therapy is a personal choice, and every situation is different. That is why it is important to research the different types of therapy that exist to find the right one for you. Trust your gut when deciding if the therapist and/or type of therapy is right for you. If it feels like it could be right for you – go for it, jump on in. Therapy is a valuable service for people in relationships, or single, and can be life changing for you, your marriage, and for your family.